Dear sister in Christ,
“In the light of Mary, the Church sees in the face of women the reflection of a beauty which mirrors the loftiest sentiments of which the human heart is capable: the self-offering totality of love; the strength that is capable of bearing the greatest sorrows; limitless fidelity and tireless devotion to work; the ability to combine penetrating intuition with words of support and encouragement.” — Blessed John Paul II, Redemptoris Mater, 46.
The Lord is calling you to give yourself to him, and to not listen to what the world often says. You have great dignity and worth, and it is worthwhile to save yourself for marriage, or if you sense you are called to a consecrated life, or a life of celibacy, the call of the Gospel is to live out the great freedom of the virtue of chastity.
If you have struggled with this, here are some resources that could help you. It is crucial to really begin (or strengthen) your life of prayer. Find a good spiritual director, spend time in Eucharistic adoration, and pray to the Blessed Mother–the Rosary. Also regular confession is a powerful help.
The Chastity Project–Jason and Crystalina Evert have compiled a great resource with lots of Questions and Answers for those practical questions.
The Porn Effect–This is not something that is only a problem for men. Lots of good, helpful articles.
Nine Great Quotes about the Catholic understanding of woman.
Letter to Women by Pope Saint John Paul II
Mulieris Dignitatem– Encyclical by Pope Saint John Paul II on the dignity and vocation of women.
Be sure to visit the “Chastity” page on this site for some more resources. Know of my prayers for you!